Written by Carl Bohman for a sacrament meeting talk on December 16, 2018, to be delivered to the Vint Hill Ward of the Gainesville Stake of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  The actual talk, as delivered, was an abbreviated version of this, but covered many of the most important points and messages.

Today I wish to speak directly to the young men.  So, if anyone sees a young man not paying full attention out there, feel free to give them a helpful little nudge.

The following link has been going around on Facebook, especially in some of the groups that I currently belong to:

Gaslighting: What it is and how to know if you are a victim of it.

Relationships are a two-way street.
It is only fair to expect a lot from someone you are willing to give a lot to.
Hold another to high standards only if you are willing to abide by at least the same standards.
God also has high standards (be ye perfect), but is also filled with compassion, mercy, and love towards all of us (who will never meet those standards without the atonement of Christ).
You should never, ever "settle," but be sure to be realistic.
The way you judge others is the way you will be judged, so judge righteously.

I did not marry to get divorced. Yet here I am.

Though I did everything I knew how to do and was willing to do more, marriage requires two who are willing to do all they can to succeed. Having been left with no other way forward, I now restart my search for an eternal companion.

What My Wife Is Not
By Carl Bohman

Most people get married believing a myth--that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, sexual fulfillment, intimacy, friendship. The truth is that marriage, at the start, is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage; love is in people, and people put it into marriage. There is no romance in marriage; people have to infuse it into their marriages.

A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising--keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.

There is only one love language.

You heard me right.  Despite all of the books, articles, experts, etc. out there promoting some other number (usually five), there has been, is now, and will always be only one love language.

I know this is a rather bold claim.  To be perfectly honest, I have read all of "The 5 Love Languages" [amazon 080241270X inline] and do agree with many of the principles and ideas it contains.  However, I still maintain that, when all is said and done, there is only one love language:

I'm starting to migrate content from another site into this one.  The stories there are going to be added here: Stories often told by LeRoy Behling

A recent quetion I was asked: When listing processes on a system using Solaris zones, is it possible to see the user names instead of the user IDs for processes running in the zone?

Short answer: Not directly. Indirectly, yes.

In case any of you missed it a few summers back (2010), Disney gave away 50 free MP3s.  I downloaded nearly all of them at the time, but missed a few.  I managed to locate them online here: http://www.laifamily.com/Disney/disney.html.

There are quite a few really good classics here. Enjoy.

Here's the track listing (from the external website, which provides the download links for each song):